Now I'll be honest here, I have thought several times, is this friendship worth it? Am I not worth while being around? Will this friendship last? What am I doing that this person is....? How come this person treats me....? etc.
We have all had questions raised up in our friendships and why people are the way they are. You see posts on facebook all the time about people sticking up for themselves and not having people walk all over them, etc. It seems that through posts, people feel they are empowered and can be this total, I won't let anyone hurt me, type person but are we those people in person? Are we so willing to walk away from people who "treat you poorly" or "take advantage" of you, etc. What happened to the, lets bring this out in the open and discuss this type deal? Why are we so willing to walk away from people without telling them why we're walking away? If you feel that someone is mistreating you or taking advantage of you or not being around like they should, why do we drop a friendship before asking why someone is maybe being the way the are? Someone might not know they're taking advantage or treating someone poorly or maybe they've become suddenly busy and they can't be around much. I think we as a society, myself included, point fingers way to quickly before asking someone, What the heck is going on?
Have we become a stronger society only behind a computer screen? And if we're strong in front of someone, are we too willing to point the finger and tell someone how horrible they're being without asking why they're being the way they are before we cram it down their throats?
As someone who studied psychology a bit, I definitely look at things in a different perspective and I know that people are afraid of being hurt. They try to act tough and some people are tough but most act tough so that people can't see how hurt they really are. The only thing is is that hurt is some what of a beautiful thing. If you act like the tough guy, nothing ever gets resolved(and things can escalate,) people just go away for awhile or forever. If you show someone that they're hurt and that by them acting tough or explaining that they're taking advantage or treating you poorly, you might find that you get a better result and I say might. Some people are too afraid to talk about how they truly feel but if you don't, the issue is going to happen again and again and again.
If you're reading this, take a second to mull it over and see what could come out of it... some friendships are worthwhile figuring out... and if this doesn't work, than its best to walk away and at that point, you will know you did do all that you could. Walking away and not telling the person why, is just you losing out and them never knowing why.
Great idea Ash2.0 for this deliciousness... glad you thought of it :)
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